|3 of my 7 nieces - Little smarty pants all of them!|
I have 7 little nieces and this topic is very hard for me because they are all so very pretty, and all so very smart. Notice I thought of pretty first?
Just the other day I noticed for the first time Hannah, Abbi & Beka (all sisters) look so very close to alike other than age of course… and their eyes. Hannah has brown eyes, Abbi has green eyes, and Beka has blue eyes. This struck me as unusual because of the 6 children in my family 1 has a different eye color. These girls, my nieces are so beautiful and cute, and yet the fact remains the article (posted below) is so very right.
We as women (& it starts younger than you think) strive too much to be the prettiest not necessarily the smartest. I didn’t get my job because of the way I look… or at least I hope not. I got where I am today by using my noodle to think and aspire to learn. Yet I still strive to be the prettiest, the best dressed, the best looking. Why is this?
Because from childhood, people have told me how pretty I looked in my Easter dress or Christmas dress, or how beautiful my hair looked (my hair used to be so long I could sit on it as a little girl), or how pretty my brown eyes are... This is the perfect way to create look-based esteem in little girls.
Because of this I wanted to always have longer hair, darker brown eyes, prettier dresses than all my little friends. Always comparing myself to the girl next to me that had sparkles in her dress, or a bow in her hair.
I gained a rather sizable amount of weight when I hit puberty and was very conscious of how I looked, and I wasn’t as pretty as the other girls around me who could wear size 4 dresses… and it didn’t help that my sister (2.5 yrs older than me) had the “perfect” little body and always always always was smaller than me. I put so much focus on this that it tainted my youth, and tries daily to affect my attitude. So, I guess this is something that every mother, sister, grandmother, aunt, friend, or total stranger should think about when talking to little girls.
We value too much what people think of us. It’s who we are and always will be… so why shouldn’t we value our brains and strive harder to be smarter, talented and athletic. Use our given gifts to achieve a better world for the next generation, not a prettier world for the shallow people.
Take a few minutes to read the article below… it’s worth it to the little girls, the little angels, the little brainy acts of the next generation.
It's hard isn't it... to say to a little girl. Hello, how are you today. instead of Hello, Oh my! How pretty you look. .........................................