Saturday, January 14, 2012

Little Girls, Little Angels, Little Brains

3 of my 7 nieces - Little smarty pants all of them!
I have 7 little nieces and this topic is very hard for me because they are all so very pretty, and all so very smart. Notice I thought of pretty first?  
Just the other day I noticed for the first time Hannah, Abbi & Beka (all sisters) look so very close to alike other than age of course… and their eyes. Hannah has brown eyes, Abbi has green eyes, and Beka has blue eyes. This struck me as unusual because of the 6 children in my family 1 has a different eye color. These girls, my nieces are so beautiful and cute, and yet the fact remains the article (posted below) is so very right. 

We as women (& it starts younger than you think) strive too much to be the prettiest not necessarily the smartest. I didn’t get my job because of the way I look… or at least I hope not. I got where I am today by using my noodle to think and aspire to learn. Yet I still strive to be the prettiest, the best dressed, the best looking. Why is this?
Because from childhood, people have told me how pretty I looked in my Easter dress or Christmas dress, or how beautiful my hair looked (my hair used to be so long I could sit on it as a little girl), or how pretty my brown eyes are... This is the perfect way to create look-based esteem in little girls.

 Its true!

Because of this I wanted to always have longer hair, darker brown eyes, prettier dresses than all my little friends. Always comparing myself to the girl next to me that had sparkles in her dress, or a bow in her hair.
 I gained a rather sizable amount of weight when I hit puberty and was very conscious of how I looked, and I wasn’t as pretty as the other girls around me who could wear size 4 dresses… and it didn’t help that my sister (2.5 yrs older than me) had the “perfect” little body and always always always was smaller than me. I put so much focus on this that it tainted my youth, and tries daily to affect my attitude.  So, I guess this is something that every mother, sister, grandmother, aunt, friend, or total stranger should think about when talking to little girls.

 We value too much what people think of us. It’s who we are and always will be… so why shouldn’t we value our brains and strive harder to be smarter, talented and athletic.  Use our given gifts to achieve a better world for the next generation, not a prettier world for the shallow people.
Take a few minutes to read the article below… it’s worth it to the little girls, the little angels, the little brainy acts of the next generation.

It's hard isn't it... to say to a little girl. Hello, how are you today. instead of Hello, Oh my! How pretty you look. .........................................

Sunday, January 8, 2012

The little things

What do we have in life that if we really thought about it we don’t NEED?

I don’t have a cell phone, I don’t get service at my house so why would I need one? But... somehow I still want one, because they are convenient. However they are also a pain. No matter where you are you have no excuse of not being found. I hate that, because sometimes I just want to hide from everyone & everything and listen to the peacefulness around me. I don’t have TV at home, but we just bought tv’s before Christmas? Does that make sense to you? We watch Netflix, and movies and we spent a lot of money to do so. We don't have internet, but we have 2 computers and two desks to store them on.  I have a 2100 sqft house that is full of things I’ve forgotten I have. Do I really need those things? I’ve lived there 2 years and there are still things packed in boxes. Why do we keep these things? Are we as american's so attached to having material items that you can’t part with them? I am completely against hording useless things so why do I have STUFF I don't use? I’m just going to have to put that in my brain and clean, clean, clean… purge, purge, purge clutter!

Silly things like papers and pictures that I can scan and go paperless, so why do I keep these things? There is no reason & no more excuses!

2 days off, be prepared. Boxes are coming out and thrift store donations will be made! Time to PURGE! 

Garbage, clutter, crap, useless items in my house... hit the tracks! And don't come back!

Saturday, January 7, 2012

Best Friend

Urban Dictionary: Best Friends: 

Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you.

My Best Friend: 
The one you laugh with, the one you cry with, the one you fight with, the one you love to be with, the one you can't remember when you didn't have, the one you can't picture yourself without, the one that holds your world together, the only one who can break it apart, the one you trust with your heart. 

When you have a best friend hang onto to them. Life is too short to not have a best friend. 

 Unconditional Love. 


 give a little, take a little - laugh a lot & love always.